Tips on Caring For Yourself After a Loss
The First 24 - 48 Hours:
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Stay hydrated and rest when you’re able.
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Try to eat something nutritious if possible. You may have an upset stomach—that is normal. Try to eat small amounts of gentle food or perhaps a smoothie if chewing is too much.
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Periods of physical activity alternated with relaxation may help alleviate some of your physical reactions.
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Identify people in your life who may be able to help with logistical tasks.
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Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
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Stress and grief affect memory and concentration—write reminders, make lists of questions or things you need to do, leave yourself extra time to get places, etc.
And Beyond:
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Educate yourself about common grief reactions to help normalize and validate your experience.
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Try to avoid any additional big life changes.
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Be cautious of using drugs or alcohol to numb the pain.
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Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
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Listen to your body; if you need to cry, yell, sleep, eat, etc. - do it!
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Reach out for help as needed. Talk to a friend, grief counselor, pastor, or look at a reputable grief website or engage with someone else you trust.
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Remember, you're the expert on what grief feels like for you. It's okay to say "no" to suggestions or advice from others.